Lifestyle,  Wedding

Why is marriage supposed to be hard?

So I have been married for a little over a year now.

Everyone keeps asking, so how does it feel?

It feels like….nothing. I mean, I don’t know what I’m supposed to feel. People kept asking me if everything felt different after getting married, and they are surprised that I said it didn’t.

Flowers on our wedding day

I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love being married and I love my husband to death. I just don’t understand why people think marriage is supposed to transform your relationship into something else.

I don’t know, if I needed the wedding to change something in our relationship, I definitely would not have gotten married.

After getting together, we had to make some quick decisions on if our relationship was something we wanted to pursue seriously or not, due to the fact that I was graduating from college at the end of the semester we met, and he still had another semester left.

We chose to pursue it, and he helped me find a job in Cleveland, where he already had a job and the rest is history.

We went through a lot of growing and learning of our relationship with each other. After we did all of that, then we got engaged.

Our relationship has been the same since then, because we got our relationship to the place we wanted before the engagement.

A photo of my husband and I after our ceremony
Photos of us after the ceremony

I think where people get the idea is since you’re married and living together things will get difficult from there.

That’s why I made the decision I wasn’t going to get married without living with each other, because a moving van is a lot cheaper than a divorce. 

Living together, I learned that we need separate bathrooms because we both needed to leave for work at the same time, but the man spends an hour in the bathroom in the morning. 

I also learned that tea is a beverage that should be enjoyed multiple times a day. I’ve been living life all wrong.

But nothing has changed since then, and I don’t think it should. 

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